Chief Psychologist Dr. Jim Houran Says Humor Is 'Secret Weapon'
DALLAS, Feb. 11 /PRNewswire/ -- In an effort to provide ongoing
information and advice to singles on life, love and relationships, True.com
today revealed the results from its recent study on the habits of successful
online and offline flirters. Based on a year of research via focus groups,
surveys and chatroom discussions, TRUE's nine habits underlie successful
flirting both offline and online. Starting with the most important component
-- humor, the habits range from making eye contact and listening, to asking
questions, exuding confidence, and being truthful.
"Flirting is an important and fun way for individuals to get know each
other in the beginning stages of a relationship," said Dr. Jim Houran, chief
psychologist of TRUE(TM). "While all of these habits will help individuals
become more successful at flirting, a good sense of humor appears to be the
foundation -- it's what we like to call the 'secret weapon.' Humor conveys
optimism and helps create rapport, which are two crucial components for
attracting and building healthy relationships."
Relevant to both online and offline flirters, TRUE's nine habits of
successful flirters include:
-- Laughing: A sense of humor can mean anything from telling jokes, to
looking at the bright side of circumstances. Start with humor as
your foundation and from there, mix in the other eight fundamentals
of flirting;
-- Making eye contact: It you want to create instant interest with
someone, look him or her right in the eye. In addition to the self-
esteem that we gain from using eye contact, we also become better
listeners;
-- Listening: Practice really listening to someone. When you truly
listen to another person, you bestow one of the greatest gifts --
respect;
-- Asking questions: Don't be afraid to ask people questions about
themselves, including their interests and opinions. Asking questions
will make people feel appreciated;
-- Exuding confidence: At least 60 percent of communication is
nonverbal, which means that people form opinions about you based on
what they see. Always be aware of how you carry yourself, dress and
use facial expressions;
-- Being truthful: In addition to telling the truth, keep your word.
It's another way to show honesty and vulnerability in a relationship;
-- Liking and respecting people: Good flirts know the importance of
liking and respecting all people. Conversely, people who stand in
judgment of others tend to be very poor flirts;
-- Showing a positive attitude: The more you practice positive
language, the more of a habit it becomes. Start by avoiding words
like "don't" and "can't," and replace them with words like "do" and
"can." You will actually feel more positive;
-- Being an attractive person: Being attractive is subjective --
attractive is whatever it means to you. The point is when you feel
good, you look good and the inner peace that you feel inside will
radiate outward.
"With today's advanced Web technology, it's possible for all nine of these
habits to be practiced online -- even a tip as personal as making eye contact.
We've seen the popularity of TRUE's chat rooms explode as daters flock to make
connections via instant messaging tools, as well as audio and video chatting.
Individuals don't necessarily have to be in front of one another to make a
connection anymore and because of it, we're seeing the world of online dating
evolve to a whole new level," added Houran.
About TRUE
TRUE is a safer, savvy, and the only scientifically-based, online
relationship service whose mission is to help singles find long lasting and
fulfilling relationships. Founded on an advanced, scientific compatibility
test uniquely endorsed by Psychology Today and independently certified by one
of the leading experts in tests and measurements -- Integrated Knowledge
Systems, Inc. -- to meet the Standards for Educational and Psychological
Testing, TRUE is the only online relationship service that actively seeks to
further protect the safety of its communicating members by conducting
extensive criminal background screenings. Moreover, TRUE is the only site to
conduct single verification screening. With the help of proprietary research
and the industry's most extensive team of scientists, relationship experts and
psychologists, TRUE also guides its members step-by-step through all stages of
the relationship-building process.
To find out more about how TRUE helps people around the world Live, Love
and Learn(TM), please visit http://www.true.com .
SOURCE True.com
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